Cancer treatment is taxing; there are no two ways around it.
It doesn’t matter what kind of treatment you have; it is exhausting. You find
yourself completely worn out, with no energy to do the things you are used to
doing, and a lot of times you are in a great deal of pain. Some women are able
to power through it (hi Erica!), while others simply are not. It’s not a
contest. Everyone’s body reacts in different ways. There is no shame in asking
for help, even though few of us want to, thus admitting weakness. But it isn’t
weakness – it’s knowing your limitations, and being willing to reach out to
others.
I took an informal poll on Facebook to see what helped
ladies most during their recovery time post treatment. Most of the responses
were things like helping with their kids, bringing food, provided and rides and
company at appointments, and doing household chores. However, a few things
stuck out at me.
One woman’s friends and company raised $20,000 to pay for
medical expenses. And another said holding her hand was the most important
thing. That really touched my heart. Such a simple act, but so powerful.
If you want to reach out and help a friend with cancer,
check in with them first to make sure that you are fulfilling a need. Some of
those living with cancer are too worn out to entertain, and may just want to be
left alone. This is not a reflection of you or your friendship; it’s just where
your friend is as that particular moment.
If your friend is adamant about not having visitors, or not
wanting help with the kids or around the house, take the time to pick out a
card and write a personal message on the inside to let them know that you are
there if they need you, and that you care. Sometimes that’s the best gift of
all.
xoxo Jennie
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